A Diva’s Guide to Finding your Man
(or Woman)
1. Don’t settle. Don’t believe that good enough is good enough. If you’re going to spend a lifetime with this person, it better be better than good enough.
2. Trust that the universe won’t let you pass up the right partner, and in the meantime, have fun, listen to what your inner guidance has to tell you and relax.
3. Let your body tell you if this is your partner, and I don’t mean just sexually. How comfortable are you in his or her presence? How much breathing space is there between you? Does your body feel secure and relaxed and at ease? Remember, great yearning doesn’t always equate to great love.
4. Know your relationship terms—know the minimum requirements of what you absolutely must have and what you absolutely can’t be with in a relationship. Then find a partner who meets ALL of them.
5. Know yourself—don’t be pulled off course by your partner—love yourself enough to hold true to your own path. If the relationship is truly the right one for you, your paths will be spacious enough for both of you.
6. Strive to be happily single, while still looking. Trust me—happily single is far superior to unhappily coupled. Spend the time discovering who you are so that when your partner shows up, you’ll be the kind of person he or she is looking for.
7. If you have a vague feeling that something is wrong—listen to it. If you can’t articulate it, talk to your friends, a therapist or your coach until it does get clear. Every divorced woman I’ve ever talked to knew there were red flags before she got married.
8. Don’t beat yourself up for dating mistakes—they provide great lessons and help keep you focused on what you do want. And if you can keep your sense of humor, they can also provide a great laugh with your girlfriends.
9. A real partner calls, shows up and never leaves you hanging. If you find yourself calling them, making excuses or wondering if you have plans or not, you haven’t found your partner. Keep looking.
10. Don’t settle! Your soul dies a little every day you wake up next to someone who doesn’t honor and cherish you and vice versa. Get clear on what you need to make you happy. Get clear on what you have to offer to make the other person happy. And trust that a match can be found between the two.
If these ideas resonate with you and you’d like help finding and keeping your own ideal relationship, I’d love to work with you. Call or email me for a free initial consultation. My specialty is helping single women own their true relationship value so they can stop selling themselves short when it comes to finding a romantic partner.
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